Friend in the Closet
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As we spring into a warmer season its time to sort, shift and tweak the closet. I suggest a few simple reminders when doing so.
1. Send fall clothes that have recently been worn to the cleaners to ready them for storing. Remove the plastic when they return.
2. Decide any items for the new season that may not fit or you just don’t like before you incorporate into your everyday wear.Removes the space issues that may come up.
3. Change the hangers if any wire still exist
A short list for the closet:
Felted covered thin hangers
Industrial rolling rack that collapses
Cedar sachets without the “moth ball” scent
Clear plastic bins for shoes not worn daily. Your “dancing shoes”, wedding or formal, sandals not for fall, etc.
Cedar shoe fillers for worn show odor
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When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Who do you see? Are you aware of the most significant part of your face or body? Or of your own natural beauty?
Don’t Fix What’s Not Broke
It is a truly awful feeling to not feel comfortable in your own skin. But in my opinion, this ‘fix it’ thought process is all wrong. The way to feel positive about how we look is to focus on what’s great about ourselves, not to concentrate on what isn’t working, or—even worse—to try to look like someone we are not.
That’s why I developed the concept of ‘Signature Feature’—it’s a paradigm shift, a more positive approach to personalized aesthetics.
Because the key to true beauty, is looking like yourself.
Beauty is About You
We all have a Signature Feature. It’s our most beautiful aspect, tied to our personality—and it should always be highlighted in everything we do: from the way we apply our makeup, to how we dress, to the hairstyles we choose.
Signature Feature is the focal point of each individual’s look. Everyone has some part of their face that is striking and original. Whether it’s expressive eyes, or dramatic cheekbones, or a fabulous prima ballerina neck. At my practice, we help you determine what your Signature Feature is, and then highlight it—it’s how we help our patients put their ‘best face forward.’
I have specific tools I turn to that help me determine your Signature Feature. These include the ‘Blink’ factor—sometimes one feature pops out at first glance; universal aesthetics of beauty; and cultural aesthetics, as it’s important to make sure the face is at home in its world.
Tied to Your Persona
Next, we have to consider your character and personality. What’s your style? What’s your individual story?
I can’t stress enough the importance of persona in the Signature Feature equation. ‘Beauty comes from the inside’ is not an empty phrase. Take for example, funny girl Barbara Streisand. Her Signature Feature, without a doubt, is her nose. Her confident personality, stellar talent, celebration of ethnicity and individuality go hand and hand with this unconventional calling card. To ‘fix’ this feature would have violated a huge part of her identity, and who knows? Maybe her success. Did the bold and bigger-than-life feature build one of the world’s most successful actresses and singers? Did her personality develop to grow into her ‘signature?’ Or did she own it after the fact? Because appearance and self-esteem are so closely intertwined, it’s hard to really know.
Turn up the Volume
So once I have a conception of a person’s Signature Feature, I turn up its ‘volume’ and reduce the background noise to give the Signature Feature center stage. This step poses a challenge, since part of beauty lies in slight imperfection. But with experience, a balance can be struck. This is the step where smoothing acne scars, filling in a distracting deep wrinkle, or erasing a brown spot is crucial in order to highlight the essential and outstanding Signature Feature.
I’ve noticed that many times, people can’t see their own assets. Even if it’s as plain as the nose on their face. And it’s so important! Feeling beautiful is directly tied to how we feel about ourselves and about our own value. It makes us stronger and more able to withstand the upsets of everyday life, the turmoil and stress that we all experience. We know from many studies that there is a crystal clear relationship between your appearance and your self-esteem. By helping as many people as possible identify and proudly own their Signature Feature, I hope not only to help them realize their beauty—but enable them go forth into life with new-found self-confidence; I want everyone to be able say to themselves, Hey, good-looking! How was your day?
Whether you’re going out on a date, being the guest of honor at one party, or the hostess at another, my thought is always the same: you’re presenting the gift of yourself to someone, or to your guests. And since you wouldn’t give someone a gift that’s already been opened, why would you give the gift of yourself “unwrapped?”
You’re asking for clarity? Let me explain.
Clarity. Maybe you have on an outfit that makes you so happy, one that you’re really looking forward to sharing. I’d like to offer a new and different perspective on how to do that: share your look, or rather, share the gift that is you!
View yourself differently the next you go out, and change your look by covering up and peeling off.
One layer “atta” time.
Start. With a sexy top, add a scarf or simple jacket, show a little leg, reveal a bit of neck.
Next. Quietly take off the jacket and pull the scarf down over your shoulders (showing just a tad of neckline.)
Now. Wait a little bit, and then…simply slip down the scarf to graze your shoulders and “wah-lah” unexpected delight. Gift unwrapped! The best is rewrapping or re-gifting!!! LOL……(Not sure I think the last line works. It feels so strong to end with “gift unwrapped.”)
This all feels so right, doesn’t it? So why don’t we give the gift of ourselves more? Well, here’s the truth--all of us have that little bit of self-doubt. All of us suffer from the remains of that last conversation we have with ourselves right before we leave. You know the conversation? No? Well, remember that “demon” who bothered us when we tried to put some color into our lives? Well the little bugger’s back again and now he’s whispering, “ Psst. Psssssst. Maybe that’s not really the right thing to be wearing?” “Is that actually the most appropriate or ‘friendliest (3)’ outfit to go out in this evening?”
So what are we supposed to do?
It’s simple, actually. Just like we learned with color, we just need to learn how to squash the bugger and let our inner Tinkerbell out. She’s the one who reminds us that we all hold a little magic inside. Don’t we all remember the first time we put something on? When it just felt…magical? So why change it? It’s about owning it, not about changing it.
Now let’s take a look at that “gift” again.
The beautiful wrapping paper that exposes an even more beautiful gift–you! There are layers and layers of it and they’re all going towards one thing… the beauty of you, your heart, your inner beauty that’s radiating out. Truly, it’s a gift.
Now let’s look at the “wrapping” of this most special “gift.” The wrapping’s anything that’s soft and sensual–maybe silk, possibly cashmere. It’s not, definitely not a stiff fabric. The wrapping’s something that’s going to let you move, usually it’s a scarf, maybe a shawl…so sensual because it feels so good, and so wonderful for the color it brings to you.
And now for the unwrapping of the gift.
This is so much about how you enter a room. Whether you’re going in for dinner, or going to someone’s home for a party, there’s just got to be an unveiling. But… it’s a quiet unveiling. It’s subtle. So very subtle that it’s not always even noticed on a conscious level. You can tell people are somehow taking it in. You see it by little reactions, small clues that serve as an indication that they’re noticing
You’ll see someone looking at you, head cocked to the side, a little questioningly.
You’ll catch someone just wearing a look of slight wonderment.
You’ll find someone might even say, “Did you come in in that?” Or someone else might ask, “Did you…you didn’t– wait, you changed?”
Well, actually the answer is, “Yes.” Over the course of the evening you have actually been unwrapping yourself. That’s right, because…
You came in…with a scarf (a big one),
That was first… wrapped around the top part of your body.
Then, within a short period of time… you slowly unwrapped it,
And then…it became more of a shawl, draped around your shoulders, covered.
Each unveiling let’s you take away the familiar, the expected, the known, and replace it instead with the unknown, the unexpected, the unfamiliar as you keep on bring out the element of surprise. (Isn’t the best present one that’s the biggest surprise?)
Ahhh, the fantastic element of surprise.
Fantastic because it’s all about answering the question in everyone’s mind, “What has she got on underneath?”
And if it’s someone who’s not usually into wearing a print, then the wrapping (Tami, is it “wrapping” or “unwrapping” there?) is a print and that is such a surprise to everyone there.
Or, say the person comes in wearing a jacket and a scarf. Underneath the scarf is just a boring, old, solid color dress. Or so we think. And we think it because the sleeves are showing so we actually see it. Or do we? Because when she takes off the jacket (Unwrapping #1) and she unveils the scarf, which is still there and over the shoulders, we still see those sleeves–and, oh, poor dear, she’s just so boring in this solid color dress with its solid color sleeves, until…SURPRISE! Here comes (Unwrapping #2). The scarf comes down and actually…the shoulders are bare! That’s right, all that’s holding up the dress and sleeves are little leather buckle straps.
Whoa, baby! It’s all about the element of surprise.
And from there it becomes about the art of expressing your confidence, and being at peace with the choice, or choices, you’ve made.
Congratulations! You’ve vanquished that demon on your shoulder and fully accepted Tinkerbell and her magic.
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